Trump gave a number of my relationships clarity in the same way my husband ask me to choose between him and the baby to be born decades earlier.

I chose my Sister’s Korean-American family and not my Father. I chose my gender-fluid family and not my Father. I chose my African-American colleagues and not my Father. I blocked his social and phone portals to me in 2015 and I did it again earlier this year.

(addendum) Post election I continue to choose love and aim to deny hate in all things.

And so, I weave a path that looks incongruous to many. Social media portals remain blocked. Phone and mail are open. In-person visits are measured.

It is because, my better self asks me to be a daughter that I will have no regrets being long after he is dead. My better self has experienced that this reopening is understood by him to mean that I accept all of what he offers. My better self has witnessed that my better self knows how to disagree firmly but without rancor, then leave with terms should the selected portals are to remain open.

btw: I chose the baby and the husband decided to stick around.